How to stop bullying is a problem that has plagued man for ages, and now there is a popular movement to address it. I am going to look at the bullying problem and what we can do to prevent bullying.
How Do We Stop Bullying?
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, what can we do about bullying?
First we must look at the definition of a bully or bullying. What is bullying? According to the Webster’s dictionary, bullying is the use of force or coercion to treat abusively or intimidate others. Ironically it is thought to have derived from Middle Dutch boele lover; akin to Middle Low German bōle lover, Middle High German buole dating back to the year 1538 (Merriam-Webster, 2013)
Most of my research revealed the bullying problem to be limited to school age children, young adults, and college students. In the government website stopbullying.gov it is defined as; “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance” (Bullying Definition, 2013).
This could not be further from the truth. Otherwise there would be no need for laws against domestic violence, rape, armed robbery, and other violent crimes. These are all forms of bullying.
Types of bullying include;
A) Physical; most common in school age children, domestic relationships, and violent crime. It has been noted that most bullies have themselves been victims of abuse or bullying.
B) Psychological; this is mostly verbal or a variation thereof (cyber bullying). Name calling, gossiping, and spreading rumors are examples. These forms have emotional implications and can be just as damaging. It can also create devastating effects on the victim, job loss and relationship troubles are just a couple of examples.
C) Manipulative; this type is perpetrated by individuals or groups in order to promote an agenda or ideology. I am going to expand on this type in the next paragraph as I believe it to be the most dangerous. Politicians, special interest groups and organizations use it a lot.
Most proponents of the anti-bullying movement are themselves bullies. Recently there has been a big push in the political correctness arena. The term “politically correct” is rooted in cultural Marxism dating back to WWI. It is a parallel to economic Marxism with a goal of language deconstruction. Language deconstruction takes any text, removes all meaning and re-inserts any meaning desired.
In Cultural Marxism, certain minorities or groups are considered to be inherently good. Blacks, Hispanics, and homosexuals among other groups are determined to be “victims,” and therefore automatically good regardless of what they say or do.
White males are determined to be inherently evil, thereby becoming the equivalent of the white advantaged middle to upper class in economic Marxism (Lind, 2000).
What is the goal of cultural Marxism? To bully and shame the people into relinquishing their private property rights. To take away what is rightfully theirs and redistribute it through the state.
It is the whole basis behind Political Correctness, another form of bullying.
It is also why we have words that white people are forbidden to say. I do not condone hate speech as it is also a form of bullying, but if there is any word deemed “taboo” it should be taboo for all.
This is why we can have members of the “New Black Panther Party” standing outside polling stations in uniform with weapons and not get arrested or prosecuted.
Terrorism is an extreme example, but the politically correct term is now “man-made disasters.”
Can We Really Stop Bullying?
Why do people bully others? The obvious reasons are to gain an advantage over another or gain control over another. What I am speaking of deals more with the psychological aspect. This can be a broad subject; so for the sake of this article, I am going to break it down into a general concept.
We are competitive by nature. Competition can be a healthy thing. It can also be a motivator for us to do our best, and be our best. Competition can also be a facilitator of bullying. There are those who will stop at nothing to be in control or rise to the top.
We also have a survival nature. People will do most anything when it comes to survival. There are some that would argue that it is proof we are no different than animals. I disagree because we have the ability to think and reason. If it came down to starving, I can think of numerous options other than robbery.
Abraham Maslow wrote a paper on a study he did in 1943 entitled “A Theory of Human Motivation”. In this paper he described stages of human self-actualization. Below is a pyramid chart of the stages, the most basic needs being at the bottom.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
According to Maslow’s theory, these stages are inherent in human development. The process starts in our childhood years.
Whether you believe Maslow’s theory to be correct or not, it is not without some merit. If you look at the stages you will see that they all tie in together.
We all need food, water, and shelter. We get those things through education and employment. Employment creates confidence, respect, and a sense of achievement. We are then able to gain positive relationships and property.
Bully’s lack self-confidence. Often when someone bullies another it is because they lack self confidence to achieve, and suffer from fear of lack. This leads to jealousy, rage and contempt. Often these things lead to violence or some sort of psychological bullying.
Remember the old TV shows like Andy Griffin, Leave it to Beaver ect…? They dealt with bullying issues on those shows, and how to stop bullying, what was the solution? Fight back! They do not teach those values these days. They are teaching them to run and tell, yea that’ll work. The teacher will not be there always, and the bully will find you.
The strange thing about bullies is that they are like dogs. They can smell fear. The more scared you are, the harder they will push. If you run, they will chase you. To make matters worse, now other kids think you are a push over so now you are dealing with several bullies.
How do I know this? From experience, I was bullied as a kid. I was smaller and weaker than my classmates up until I hit puberty. Then I started fighting back. Once they saw I would fight back, win or lose, they left me alone.
When you succumb to bullying you are giving up your God given rights to freedom and liberty. You are relinquishing your free will to another. You hand your life over to another.
I am a Christian Councelor, so not everyone is going to agree with me on this point. The number one reason that you cannot stop bullying is our sin nature.
When Adam and Eve fell prey to the temptation of Satan, we were cursed with a sin nature (Gen. III). Jesus died on the cross as a payment for our sins, but we must accept it. This also does not make us perfect, and bullying will never be stopped for all of these reasons.
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, CPI.net (a liberal site) is publishing a book. They want people to submit answers to this 5 question survey for the book.
1) What’s the best piece of advice you can offer to someone who’s being bullied?
2) What’s the best piece of advice you can offer to a teacher dealing with bullying?
3) What’s the best piece of advice you can offer to an administrator to stop bullying?
4) What’s the best piece of advice you can offer to advocates who work to prevent bullying?
5) What’s the best piece of advice you can offer to a bully?
Can anyone tell me who is missing from giving advice to?
The answer to “How to Stop Bullying”
The Parents, did anyone stop to consider advice to the parents? Yes, they did, but this is done on purpose. The Marxist/Communist agenda includes the breakdown of the family unit. The State knows what is best for your children and how to stop bullying.